It has been a very interesting couple of weeks for me. There has been a lot of ‘stuff’ coming up for people as the energies on the planet begin to resonate at a higher level and all the lower level stuff has to surface. This can cause conflicts not only with others but within your-self. So this week I want to talk about compassion.
I was having a moment the other night and phoned a friend who told me that what I was experiencing were normal emotions and I needed to cut myself some slack. Remember the part of you that gets angry, jealous, hurt, sad, wounded, resentful and all those other tricky emotions is hoping to reach out to you for support. However more often than not, instead of being compassionate towards ourselves we feel we ‘should’ be different and beat ourselves up over it.
Why are we so hard on ourselves? Many people believe that if they push themselves hard enough then they will change but bullying never inspired anyone to change! Berating yourself will not make you a better person, it will only make you sick, sad and angry.
You must learn to be gentle and treat yourself as you would someone you love. This is what inspires positive change. A nurturing and loving environment helps us to feel strong, safe and supported and it is up to us to create this environment within us.
How you treat yourself is how you will treat others and what you project into the world is how others will treat you also. To change your relationships you must work on your-self, not expect the other person to change. Remember that the Universe also observes how you treat yourself and reflects this back at you. So it is important to show the Universe how good you feel about yourself!
We all seek for love in our lives. But love is not something to be sought, rather we must recognise we already have it and it is within us, not without. When we are able to love ourselves and be compassionate then we will also offer others the same courtesy. An attack thought about another is an attack thought on your-self and vice versa. And when we attack we have forgotten to love, which goes against our natural state of being.
Loving yourself unconditionally is the key to compassion and compassion is important in learning to love your-self. Without these things you will find it very hard to love others. When we place conditions on love we lose it, both with others and with ourselves. Learn to let go of your unreasonable expectations, your guilt and self-loathing, exchange them for compassion, kindness, grace and love.
Imagine your heart welling up with love and overflowing within you. Then see the excess flowing out from you and into the world. See yourself through the eyes of the angels and decide to let yourself off the hook today for your false belief that you are not perfect exactly as you are. And in turn let others off the hook for your belief that they are not perfect exactly as they are. To love is to set your-self free.
Beloved child of God, you have done nothing wrong, and we assure you that you are wholly lovable – then, now and always. - Doreen Virtue’s perpetual angel calendar.
Have an amazing weekend everyone. May love light your path.